Naughty or Nice, Who Gets the Ice?

 Diamonds, ice... a girl's best friend? Diamonds are one of the most sought after treasures in a relationship, because they signify 'forever.' Or do they? Who really gets the cherished prize of diamonds, the naughty or the nice girls?

Both get the prize, they just come with different packaging. Those naughty girls who pass out favors and ignore convention are frequently the most demanding of trinkets and jewels. It is the method of finding favor with your desired racy lady. They expect them and men seeking their favor compete to provide the most flamboyant gifts. The lady in red wins the flashiest earrings, necklaces and bracelets.

What about the conventional 'nice' girl, the girl next door type we've all been told were the most pursued? Turns out they were likely to be less pursued but in the end, received the most coveted of the jewels, a diamond ring that really implies, 'This could be forever.'

Jewelers hold the secrets of our relationships. They identify the level of commitment and proceed to sell the perfect piece of jewelry that makes the correct statement. When they see real commitment, they head for the ring tray. When they see the heat of just lust, they bring out the trays of bracelets and other cutting edge jewelry meant to create an impression. They are extraordinarily good at their job.

In the final analysis, most men choose a woman they are comfortable with bringing home to offer the coveted diamond engagement ring; one they believe will fit into their family and life style over the long haul. The exception to this is the men who had a really bad experience with their parents and choose to do the exact opposite. Their statement is, "I'll never be what you want me to be."

What lies behind these emotions is learning that men who were close to and respected their mother and felt nurtured by her love seek out a woman who closely resembles the way they saw their mother. Those who had a difficult relationship and lost respect for their mother seek out a woman who is the opposite of how they saw their mother.

If you're not sure how you measure up to your man's idea of perfection, take a look at his mother and see if you have similarities, or listen to see if he relates the things you have in common. If you're unsure of his intentions, head to the jewelry store and pay attention to which counter and what box appears. Either way, the ice is forever; it's the intent that is yet to be determined.