Don't You Want To Stay Here Another Day?

 Why do we try so hard to make someone stay with us? The reasons run the gauntlet from, "I'm afraid to leave," I don't think I can make it on my own," "What if it doesn't get better," all the way to "A psychic told me this is my soul mate... " and so we hope they will stay just another day. What do we hope will happen; that they will suddenly remember that they said they loved us, or would never leave?

If we look deeper into the cause of this prayer that someone who wants to leave will stay we will find our familiar shadow, fear. He lurks beside every failure when we dared to reach out for happiness. Fear warns us of all the dire things that can happen if we dare to believe in ourselves, cautioning us that we don't really deserve to be happy; we haven't paid our dues or we are not worthy of it. It is also fear that places another person on a pedestal while reminding us that we are lucky to have such a person in our lives, even if it makes us miserable.

The smallest events in our lives can set the stage for fear to become our companion, frequently for life. A childhood friend who rudely snubs us or says hateful things, a teacher who simply did not connect with us and constantly found us lacking; there are a multitude of reasons we allow fear to join us in our life journey. Some are huge; bullying and abuse top that list. Fear is a tough taskmaster. He teaches us how to behave, and to react rather than respond to events that happen. Fear is always in a hurry. Hurry and make a choice so you won't look stupid or be less than someone else. His weapon bag is filled with self-denigrating comments.

How did he get so powerful? Fear understands that our sub-conscious mind does not recognize when we don't really believe something, or when we say we are kidding. That part of us hears us and immediately is in motion to deliver what we have spoken, it believes us. What you believe ultimately becomes your reality, even if you were kidding or some part of you didn't really mean it.

What if you could step out of a situation that is causing you so much pain? What if you were the psychic and could see into the future? Would fear have such a hold on you? Would you ask someone to stay if you could see around the bend to what you really could become without them? There is a more powerful part of you that lurks high above fear and your subconscious mind. Its name is fitting; it is the super-conscious mind, better known as our higher self. It is all-seeing, all-knowing and 100% in your corner, because you are one. You simply have to ask your question and listen for the answer, and believe.